By Nancy Ludmerer
There was once a woman who answered the question “How are you?” truthfully, without leaving anything out. Don’t misunderstand: She wasn’t boring or full of herself. Rather, she was empty, with only a knot in her gut—not a stomach tied in knots, but a single knot, which was sometimes a “knot” and sometimes simply “not,” as in “Not well,” “Not good,” or “Not myself today or tomorrow or next year.”
English was not her first language. It was not even her second language. Before becoming empty, she kept a book under the bed in the apartment in Springfield Gardens:“The Blue Book of Grammar and Punctuation, An Easy-to-Use Guide.” Alas, this guide wasn’t easy to use. Her husband saw it and was suspicious. What was it doing there? Who gave it to her? Was a man at the hotel where she worked teaching her English? The woman answered truthfully: She’d found the book, left by a hotel guest. Man or woman? She didn’t know. The bed in that room was a king, sheets rumpled, blankets tossed—a couple, surely. Her husband yelled that she had to return it; it wasn’t hers; the guest might have remembered it later. If she didn’t return it, he’d call the hotel and say she was a thief. She’d be deported! Now she’d better tell the truth. Who gave her the book? What man?
Her husband had lots of questions, but none of them was “How are you?”
Later, she turned the pages, trying to memorize the lessons, but knew she couldn’t. She found a new hiding place, behind the rags underneath the kitchen sink. She worried then about dampness, about mildewed pages and stains. She worried about giving in too often. She worried that she herself was “easy to use.” The Blue Book used “real world” examples. She wanted to raise her hand, wave it like the overeager fifth-grader she’d been in Recife, and cry: Here! Me! or perhaps (given this confusing language), Hear me!
One chapter discussed “good” versus “well.” It ended with a question, to make sure you’d learned your lesson. Now, I hope you’ve learned your lesson, he’d said, often enough, rubbing his fist.
The question went:
How do you answer the question, “How are you?”
But there wasn’t just one answer. The book instructed that to answer a question about physical well-being, say, “I feel well,” or “I don’t feel well.” Asked about your emotional state, say, “I feel good,” or “I don’t feel good.”
She never even knew what her husband was asking. “How could she possibly know what anyone else was thinking?”
The book was clever, though. If asked “how are you?” you could say, “I feel fine,” “I feel great,” or “I feel sick.”
At the police station, when the female officer asked, “How are you?” the woman thought of the book in the apartment in Springfield Gardens, its spine cracked, its pages bloody and torn.
Then she thought a long time before answering.